See the angel watching over the unborn baby in the sonogram.
There
have been a number of friends in our community, who
say
they thought abortion would be permissible due to rape or incest.
I hope you are able to use this to be helpful to them.
These
abominations who affect the innocent are very difficult for any woman
or child who has been raped. Yes,
children get raped too, and sometimes by their own father, brother or
uncle! Most
have to deal with the effects of it the rest of their life. And there is also the problem of
spousal rape.
You
would be surprised at how many times in 18 years, as a priest, I
helped women with this, and even before a priest, I knew of these
things happening to girls, even in my own high school, especially
through date rape. On
occasion, after talking with a victim, when I then take it to Jesus
in prayer, I cry, because I feel their pain and truly believe Jesus
feels everything they have gone through, but in a much more intense
way, and He too weeps.
Women
can suffer from false guilt
(blaming
oneself),
the feeling of being dirty,
embarrassment, fear of
wanting intimacy with one’s spouse, who had nothing to do with it.
Anger, unforgiveness and other
emotions afflict
them. The perpetrator causes
immense harm.
If
we use a serial killer as an example, many
would think a serial killer should deserve the death penalty. Others,
don’t believe in the death penalty. If proven guilty, everyone
would agree there should be
punishment and prevention,
such as jail.
If
a married man had four
children and then later in his life, he becomes a rapist,
and then is apprehended,
everyone agrees,
he should go to jail
as a punishment, and to
prevent it again.
His children conceived in his marriage would be very embarrassed and
heart broken to discover their father was like a monster, who preyed
upon innocent victims.
Should
an unborn child conceived in
the violence of rape be
killed? Since his children in
his marriage were conceived in love, they should live, right?
After all, they are already
born. After his wife
discovers her husband is a serial rapist, she divorces him. She later
reveals two of her four children from
her marriage were also
conceived in rape, because he raped her during marriage. She was
forced to have relations with him and was beaten and abused in the
process.
Would
anyone think a 4
yr old and
7 yr old child should
be killed, since they were conceived through the abomination of rape?
Of course not.
If
any woman became pregnant due to a rapist, she
fears she could later look at
the child and see “the rapist” and to avoid that, she may want an
abortion. But the woman, who had four children from her serial
rapist ex-spouse, two of which were conceived that way, still she
would never want to kill them.
The
dynamic behind this, is that the mother does not see her unborn child
and therefore its easier to do away with her
child. But, if she held her child in her arms and even if later the
child grew to look like the rapist, because of a mother’s love, she
would still love the child. The
psychological harm (seeing him in her child) done to her by the
rapist, is the problem. The child is not the problem.
Do
people really mean, that if
an innocent person (a
child)
reminds someone of their wicked father, then the innocent
child should be killed?
What! Does anyone really think its okay to kill an innocent son or
daughter, due to the father’s
sin?
Rape
and incest are both criminal acts, and in our system of justice we
punish the criminal. We do not punish the victim, nor do we punish
the criminal's children. We are told that if a pregnancy results from
an act of rape or incest the compassionate response is to offer the
traumatized woman an abortion. No woman should be "forced to
carry that monster's child," we are told. Adoption
is always an option. The
trauma of sexual assault is very real. But, why compound such severe
trauma with the additional trauma of abortion? Rape is an act of
violence inflicted upon a woman. She is an innocent victim, and this
knowledge may someday help her come to terms with the rape and
rebuild her life. Abortion, on the other hand, is an act of violence
that a mother inflicts on her own child.
Through
abortion, the mother becomes the aggressor, and this knowledge may
haunt her long after she has dealt with the rape. Women - even those
who were victims of sexual assault - have reported years of physical,
emotional and psychological difficulty following their abortions.
Abortion did not solve their problems; it merely created additional
ones.
The
compassionate response to rape is to meet the real needs of the
mother. Providing life-affirming medical, financial, emotional and
psychological care
meets these needs, and pro-life groups across the state of Kansas
– more
than 30
crisis pregnancy centers, and groups like Life After Assault League –
and
Sarah’s Hope in Wichita www.sarahshope.com
1-800-848-LOVE
are
doing this work. Abortion
takes the life of a living human being.
The
circumstances of conception may have been criminal, but the life of
the newly-created human being is just as valuable as any other
person's. We do not put criminal's innocent children to death in our
culture; it simply isn't done.
The
so-called "life of the mother" exception for abortion is
unnecessary and dangerous. To begin with, there are no situations
where
abortion, defined as the direct and intentional killing of an unborn
child, is medically necessary to save the life of the mother.
Medical operations such as the removal of a cancerous uterus or the
removal of an ectopic pregnancy are moral even under Catholic
teaching and are not considered abortions. If
a pregnant woman has a cancerous uterus that imminently threatens her
life, then the uterus may be removed even though such removal results
in the death of the unborn child. Similarly, when a fertilized ovum
lodges in the Fallopian tube and grows there, the damaged portion of
the tube containing the baby may be removed where it is clearly
necessary to save the mother's life. Such operations are
justified by the "principle of double effect," because the
death of the child is an unintended effect
of an operation independently justified to save the mother's life.
They do not involve the
intentional
and willful destruction
of an unborn child. Legally, such operations are not considered
abortions. The removal of such conditions has never been prosecuted
in this country, even when the mother's life was not immediately
threatened. There is, therefore, no need to provide a specific
exception for such cases.
In
February, I
heard Melissa Ohden speak in Wichita. She
was conceived in rape and her mother
attempted
to abort her, but she survived the
abortion.
She was given up for adoption and then later in
life
met her mother. She give
thanks
to
God
everyday, for
sparing
her life and in response she tries to help other women, who suffer
from rape, to not kill their own child. She
belongs to the organization Abortion Survivors.
(www.abortionsurvivors.org)
Moreover,
an explicit exception for the life of the mother is dangerous. One
should never attempt to codify in law the importance of one innocent
human life over and above another. Physicians
must make their best effort to save both patients, giving equal care
to mother and child. They should never be given a license to
intentionally kill either of them.
Finally,
many abortionists believe that the very condition of pregnancy itself
is a life threatening condition. Consequently, a "life of the
mother" exception can become a massive statutory loophole
through which to drive abortion on demand. Once pro-lifers say there
can be a "good reason" to kill a preborn baby, the
foundation of the pro-life movement crumbles. The argument is lost.
Either the preborn child is a person, or the child is not a person.
Since the preborn child is a person, there can be no exceptions for
abortion.
"Beware
that you don't look down upon a single one of these little children.
For I tell you that in heaven their angels will have constant access
to my Father. And I, the Messiah, came to save the lost. If a man has
a hundred sheep, and one wanders away and is lost, what will he do?
Won't he leave the 99 others and go out into the hills to search for
the lost one? And if he finds it, he will rejoice over it more than
over the 99 others safe at home! Just so, it is not my Father's will
that even one of these little ones should perish." (Matthew
18:10-14)
Let
us turn to Jesus and ask Him to help those traumatized by rape,
incest or abortion and give all of us a deep love in our heart to
help everyone in need.
Let
us pray for the repentance and conversion of perpetrators. Let
us pray the hearts of mothers will turn to their unborn children and
love them and
overcome their fears and wounded hearts.
And
may
God’s mercy and love triumph in the hearts of every person.
This is the Pastor's Column in The Monitor, local newspaper of Little
River, KS for August. I'm not a pastor, but a priest in residence at Holy Trinity
in Little River, but the kind editor of the paper permits me to give my
two cents once a month.