Our Lord today, reminds us of the stark reality that sometimes, we may put into positions, we must choose Him, over our family.
Here are some common ways, we can be placed in a difficult circumstance of choosing Jesus over our family.
For example: A relative wants us to enter into a business agreement, which is dishonest. Will we do it or refuse?
Or a Catholic relative wants to get married outside of the Church in an invalid ceremony. Will we attend or stand up for our faith.
What if we are invited to dinner at the home of a non-practicing Catholic on a Friday during Lent, and they want to serve meat? Will we eat meat, knowing its a serious sin, so as to not offend family?
The saints give witness to placing God above our family.
St. Hermenegild is a martyr for the Eucharist. Catholics only recognize properly consecrated Hosts by a priest as the true Body and Blood of Christ. This means we can't receive communion in non-Catholic churches. Non-Catholics believe the Eucharist is only a symbol. However, we believe the Eucharist is truly Jesus. King Leovigild and is family were Arians, who didn’t believe Jesus is God. His son, Hermenegild married the Catholic daughter of the King of France. Her faith caused him to become Catholic. King Leovigild tried to convert his son back to Arianism. Eventually, the king captured his son, chained and locked him in a dungeon and tried to force him believe false teachings about Jesus.
Hermenegild relayed to his father, he would not sway from his faith. On Easter Eve, his father tried to seduce him to change his mind by sending him an Arian Bishop to give him communion. Hermenegild refused to receive communion from the hands of a heretical Bishop in what St. Gregory later called “Communion of a sacrilegious consecration.” His father sent soldiers to kill him. They went to the prison and found the saint calm and ready to die. They rushed at him, striking him with an ax over his head, killing him on April 13, 586.
St. Barbara's father did not believe in Jesus. He imprisoned his daughter in a tower. Because she secretly converted to Christianity, he turned her over to Roman authorities and beheaded her himself. As a result, he was instantly struck dead by lightning as divine punishment for killing his own daughter.
St. Innocencia loved to hear her Catholic friends talk about their First Communion and decided that she wanted to become Catholic so she could receive Holy Communion. When she returned home, she told her father, that she wanted to become Catholic. But her father became angry and told her to forget such foolishness.
One day, she was walking home and heard a nun teaching some girls in a home. She sat outside the window and listened to the lessons. Everyday, after school, she would sit outside the window and listen to the lessons. The nun eventually saw her outside and invited her to come inside the house for daily lessons on the Eucharist. Her father was unaware that she remained in class.
On the day of her first Communion, she wore a white dress loaned by the nun. With a communion candle in her hand, she received Holy Communion with the other children. On returning home to tell her father the good news he attacked her by stabbing her to death. The girl's body was later taken to the Cathedral in Guadalajara where it remained as a sign of her love for the Eucharist.
St. Kateri Tekakwitha's parents died from smallpox when she was young and her aunt and uncle took care of her after that tragedy. Because she became Catholic, her non-Catholic relatives persecuted her, but she remained firm in her faith. Members of the Mohawk tribe often chastised her, which she took as a testament to her faith. Because she was persecuted by her Native American relatives, including threats on her life, she fled to an established community of Native American Christians located near Quebec, where she lived a life dedicated to prayer, penance and caring for the sick and aged.
Recall the words of Jesus: “Whoever loves father or mother more than me, is not worthy of me, and whoever loves son or daughter, more than me is not worthy of me.” He did not come to bring peace, but rather division. Here He is speaking of earthly peace—peace between family members. But peace in one’s heart and peace with God is more important than keeping peace in the family. Jesus said, “Whoever does not take up His cross and follow after me, is not worthy of me.”
If we choose God over our family, we could be persecuted and division may occur. But, Jesus gave us these comforting words, “blessed are the persecuted the reign of God is theirs.” At times in our life we need to be a witness to our faith, a witness to the teachings of the Church, and therefore witness to our family. Our Lord said, “If you deny Me, you will deny the One whom sent me.” As St. Peter said, “It is better to choose God than man.” To be found not worthy of Jesus, would be terrifying at the moment of death because Jesus is our eternal judge.
Let us pray, O Jesus, help me never to deny you. Jesus, grant me the grace to be faithful to you. Jesus I place you above everything in my life, my family, my career, my job, my friends.
No matter the suffering and pain in this life, I want to persevere to the end, because only You can save me. O Lord by being faithful, I will be with you forever in heaven with your Mother and all the angels and saints, who gave up everything for You!
