Why
would the Church have John the Baptist as its focus during the Advent
Season? Aren’t we preparing for the birth of Jesus? Let us recall
John the Baptist was sent to prepare the people for the coming of
Jesus. In order for the people to prepare for the coming of Jesus,
God wanted the people to repent of their sins. In another words, one
cannot prepare for the coming of Jesus, if one does not first
acknowledge one is a sinner and needs His loving mercy.
Pride
prevents repentance and one who is proud will not listen to what
another person is saying…they think they know better. The Pharisees
and the Sadducees were too proud to accept the fact Jesus is the
Messiah and because of their pride, refused to repent and because
they refused to repent, they would not become one of His followers.
To prepare for the way of the Lord, John preached repentance and the
forgiveness of sins.
Advent
is a time to prepare for the Lord, by making an act of repentance
through Confession. I would like to give you helpful advice when
going to confession. Much of this came from a talk I heard while I was in Medjugorje. When we come to Confession, we are supposed to
say our state of life. Are we married or single?
If
we commit a mortal sin, we are supposed to say how many times we
committed a moral sin and also the circumstances of the sin. For a
sin to be mortal, it needs to be grave matter, you must know its
grave matter and full consent must be given. If any of these is
lacking then its a venial sin. The circumstance is like saying, “I
missed Mass on Sunday, because I went hunting.”
A
venial sin is like stealing a piece of candy, or having angry
thoughts, or gossiping. While we are not obliged to confess venial
sins, the Church recommends we confess venial sins regularly. When
confessing venial sins, we should not confess the number of times.
Some priests will tell the people that they don’t need to confess
venial sins. But this is really bad advice. Catechism of the
Catholic Church encourages confessing venial sins: “Without
being strictly necessary, confession of everyday faults (venial sins)
is nevertheless strongly recommended by the Church. Indeed the
regular confession of our venial sins helps us form our conscience,
fight against evil tendencies, let ourselves be healed by Christ and
progress in the life of the Spirit. By receiving more frequently
through this sacrament the gift of the Father's mercy, we are spurred
to be merciful as he is merciful...” (CCC 1458).
If
we forget to confess a mortal sin, it is still forgiven. However, the
next time you go to confession, you should tell the priest, that you
forgot to confess it. Not because it wasn’t forgiven, but so that
you will receive extra penance for the sin you forgot to confess.
If
we commit an objectively grave action, though we didn’t know it was
sinful at the time, we should still confess it, to break any
attachment to the bad action. For example, if we didn’t know birth
control was a mortal sin or didn’t know playing the Ouija board was
sinful, we should confess them.
We
shouldn’t confess another person’s sins. For example, “My
wife nags at me all the time and she constantly charges up the credit
card.” Or “My husband is lazy. He doesn’t help me clean
the house and he never listens to me.” Rather, we should just
confess our own sins.
We
also shouldn’t tell stories. For example, “On my way to work,
I got a flat tire, and then a stray dog came by while I was changing
the tire and barked at me. Even though I was late for work, my mother
called and all this made me angry.” Rather, we should just say,
“I had angry thoughts”.
If
you have never confessed a serious sin from the past, its important
to confess it. Once we confessed a big sin from the past, we need to
trust in God’s mercy. However, its okay to say, for example, “I
am sorry for all my sins, especially for the sin of getting into a
fight and knocking someone out, when I was in high school.”
If
we ever steal something, we have an obligation to return the item. If
its no longer possible to return it, we must still pay for it. We
should do it anonymously. We can put the money in an envelope without
a return address or name and anonymously mail it to the person or
business it was stolen. If you don’t know where the person is or if
the business is no longer in existence, you should donate the amount
the item cost to a charitable organization, but you only do that if
you cannot repay what you took or can’t return the item.
When
we confess the sins, we should have the intention of not doing them
again. If we look at a crucifix or meditate on the sufferings of
Jesus, it helps us to be sorry.
Every
day, we should examine our conscience and ask God for forgiveness for
what we did during the day. If we do this regularly, we will actually
begin to see how the motivation behind our sins and we can even
eventually give up some sins.
We
should not lose heart if we keep re-confessing the same sins over and
over. Welcome to humanity! Saints confessed the same sins repeatedly
such as St. Jerome, who had terrible temper his whole life. Jesus
called James and John, “Sons of Thunder” because they both had a
temper.
We
should ask the Holy Spirit to enlighten us to know all our sins and
make a good confession. We should also pray for the priest before
confession, so Jesus will help the priest to give good advice.
The
devil doesn’t want us to go to confession. He does not want us to
tell all our sins. He does not want us to bring sins into the light.
He wants us to think, we don’t need confession. The devil wants us
to doubt God’s mercy. For example, he will place in our mind the
idea, that a sin is too big, that God will never forgive me. Or the
devil uses our pride to keep us from confessing sins perhaps because
we are too embarrassed.
If
you have purposely withhold a serious sin in confession, it will not
be forgiven, nor are any of our sins forgiven, until that one sin is
confessed. To purposely not confess a particular sin is to make a
sacrilegious confession.
A
common sin not confessed is to have received Holy Communion
sacrilegiously after committing a mortal sin and then failing to go
to confession before receiving communion.
We
should also confess what we have failed to do. Failed to bring
children to Mass. Failed teach your children to pray or failed to
teach children about the faith. Failed to bring children to
confession. We can fail to pray everyday. Failing to financially
support the church. Failed to help the poor or needy. We can fail to
pay attention at Mass. Fail to help a family member or neighbor who
could use our help.
Sometimes,
we don’t try to overcome our sins, but only confess them because we
are sorry, but don’t have the intention of avoiding the sin again.
You
can ask the priest for advice for a particular sin. When the priest
gives us advice, we should take it to heart and do what he asks of
us. Usually, it is Jesus who speaks to us through the priest.
You
can ask the priest to help you examine your conscience by him asking
you questions. He can go through the 10 commandments and expound on
them. For example, for the 2nd commandment, he will ask you if you
took God’s name in vain, such as saying “Oh God!” for no good
purpose except as an expression. And would ask if you cussed or used
foul language or told dirty or offensive jokes.
When
we are finished with our confession, we can tell the priest, “I am
sorry for these and all the sins of my past life, especially for the
sin of…. (adultery, or getting drunk in college, or yelling at my
children, etc…) By saying these words, it helps the priest to know
you are finished confessing. You can also ask for specific advice for
one particular sin. When we are finished with confession, we should
immediately do our penance and always thank Jesus for washing away
our sins.
Confession
not only washes away our sins, it also give us grace to overcome our
sins. The more often we go to confession, the more peace we have.
The more often we go to confession, the easier to overcome sins. We
are also more able to see the root cause and our motivations behind
our sins, which helps us to more easily turn away from them. Then
when we do our daily prayer, we can ask Jesus for specific help in
overcoming our sins.
It
is important to remember, it is Jesus, to whom you are confessing.
Jesus --in the priest-- forgives you. Jesus through the priest gives
you advice.
Every
sin no matter how small, hurts Jesus. We can look at a crucifix and
see how sin hurts Jesus. Jesus loved us so much, He died on the
Cross, so that our sins could be forgiven. We have a beautiful
crucifix here above the altar. But this is not what the crucifixion
event really looked like.
When I was a newly ordained priest
at St. Elizabeth Ann Seton parish in Wichita, a woman from Peru,
visiting her family, came up to me crying. I said, “What’s
wrong. Why are you crying?” She pointed the large crucifix
above the altar, and said, “That’s a terrible crucifix. Its
sanitized. There is no blood on that crucifix. Jesus suffered a lot
for us. In my country our crucifixes are life like. Who in their
right mind would create an image of the crucifixion that looks like
there was not much suffering. It makes me angry and sick of heart to
see Jesus depicted like this.”
My
dear friends, the woman had a point. She was right. If we look at a
crucifix that hides the blood and wounds, we are doing Jesus a
disservice. It’s as though we don’t care about what Jesus went
through-- out of love for us.
When
we go to confession, we are kneeling at the foot of the Cross. In the
confessional, we are telling Jesus, we are sorry for having hurt Him.
And through His abundant mercy, He forgives us. When Jesus through
the priest absolves our sins, our soul is washed in the blood of
Jesus and it heals the wounds caused by sin. By telling Jesus our
sins, we make an act of humility and admit we are a sinner and have
hurt Him. Then when we leave the confessional, we resolve to try not
to do the sins again and to make up for them, by doing our penance. We should confess our sins monthly.
I
like to use this as an example of what penance is. If a young boy
were to throw a rock through the window of an abandoned house and if
the owner saw the boy do it, then the owner came up to the boy, and
said, “You broke my window.” At the first the boy denies,
it saying, “It wasn’t me.” But the owner said, “I
saw you.” The boy then admits it, and says, “I am sorry,
please forgive me.” The owner replies, “I forgive you, but
you need to pay for the window.” There is punishment due to
every sin. We tell Jesus we are sorry, but we need to make up for our
sins by doing penance. Doing penance is paying the price for our
sins.
The
devil tries to get us to fear confession. We can be embarrassed to
say our sins. But, we need to trust Jesus. And remember when He
discovers a lost sheep, He picks it up and presses it to His Heart.
If
you prefer to confess to a different priest, Fr. Michael Brungardt is
just 10 min. away at Lyons and has confessions before every Mass.
He’s a great confessor.
Come
to Jesus in the Confessional and trust Him. And know the greater the
sinner, the greater one has right to His mercy. Jesus is waiting to
give you His mercy and His love. Don’t be afraid. Ask the Virgin
Mary to help you to make a good thorough confession. By Her sorrowful
Heart, pierced at the foot the cross, the thoughts of many will be
revealed and be washed away in the ocean of God’s mercy.